When I finished 5th grade, my dad decided it would be beneficial to move out of our small city and into a small town. His plan was to buy a house in the village, so that I’d be able to walk to school. I was furious and defiant for awhile, because I couldn’t get out of my head what might’ve been if we’d stayed. Spoiler alert: I ended up loving that small town and making friendships that I wouldn’t have traded for anything in the world.
One of those friends was a guy, who, for the sake of his privacy, I’ll simply call “J.” We started talking and hanging out in 7th grade, and by our senior year, we had become the type of best friends who told each other everything and felt nothing but comfort when we held each other closely. We dealt with our breakups this way, sometimes crying together. J lived in the village too, so I hung out with him often. We’d grab a bite to eat, watch Youtube videos at the library, or go for walks, just talking and enjoying each other’s company.
I cheered him on during our high school musicals over the years (after being in two of them myself with him and some other friends), so I was ecstatic when he landed the lead role of Seymour in Little Shop of Horrors for our final performance before graduation. Since 2016 was an election year, and we had several classes together, we spent most of our days practicing our Donald Trump and Bernie Sanders impressions, and discussing politics with our girl friends in the art room during study hall. After school, we ran the town with our friend group, which we liked to call “Temp Squad” (a mutual friend of ours liked his girl best friend, but she told him she wanted something temporary, so we teased him and made the joke that our friend group would never be).
Now, fast forward to my last year of college in 2020. Re-read those paragraphs and switch all of J’s pronouns to “she,” because it turns out my dear guy friend was not a guy friend at all. She now represents herself as a beautiful trans woman, and I am planning on seeing her for the first time in two years very soon.
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